Need a pick me up

[Cadet]

But I honest think if the two of you don't address your CORE issues, you're going to be right back to the trouble spot.

I don't think that Burt can address these issues by himself and IMHO until his W is ready, which at this point she is not.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

But I honest think if the two of you don't address your CORE issues, you're going to be right back to the trouble spot.

I don't think that Burt can address these issues by himself and IMHO until his W is ready, which at this point she is not.

I agree. But like a SSM, one of the affected partners -- if they find the status quo unacceptable -- needs to upset the equilibrium, and "go first."

Puppy

[dburt]

What Core issues do you think that we are dealing with and What does "go first" exactly mean?

Thanks guys,

Burt

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Your wife only being able to be happy with you -- and maybe meet some of your needs -- if you're bringing in big paychecks.

Puppy

[dburt]

So, I guess I will keep on being here for her, stroking her love language, until she is ready to deal with her inner issues. Some that has been addressed in my IC last Thursday, will have another on next Tuesday I think.

What do you think about inviting her with me?

Burt

[Cadet]

What do you think about inviting her with me?

You can ask. Just don't have any expectations that she will go or anything will get worked out.

[dburt]

Ill ask, no expectations, he is a great IC and MC so I will look forward to either...

Burt

[dburt]

So I asked if she would like to join me in councilling Tuesday and she said no, she didn't like him. (which I remember her saying that she thought the hour flew by and wished we had more time with him when we were going last year) Said he didn't remember things from week to week. She said she has an appointment with a woman next week that was recommended by her friend that "everyone goes to".

I have never heard of her and am scared where that will lead. But I cannot control that.

Asked her again for some playtime last night and again she said "no thanks" I asked why not and she said, "because I do not feel like it." I asked, "how about just giving me a little help?" She said, "no thanks", I said why not, she said, "because I do not feel like it."

Anniversary tomorrow, tickets to a show, dinner and a night in a fancy hotel. Going to do my best when I get rejected again.

Puppy, when should I upset the cart, and how should I do it, I would do anything but I do not want to upset the children.

Burt

[Cadet]

Puppy, when should I upset the cart, and how should I do it, I would do anything but I do not want to upset the children.

Puppy and I do not agree with this.

[dburt]

What is your suggestion OP?

Burt