I totally hear you, but it seems to me that it only makes sense to me from a position of strength. If the marriage was strong, and the couple decided to do this live apart thing for a while.
But in my sitch, he left us, got and decorated his own place, and went off to date other women. If his job wasn't in jeapordy and the cash was still rolling in, I believe he would still be out there partying and thinking he can have his pick of OW and flashy life.
How do I know that if I support his living in another city without us, which I don't agree with, and which straps me and the kids financially (though no more than if I was D), that once he's back on his feet and with lots of money and time, won't go off into the social dating scene again, leaving me and the kids behind, saying -- well, he tried!!
If he wants to married to ME, and I will live here or there with him, I think it is stronger to be together.
... ** Not that living together is a sure thing either, as we LBS on the board do know, but being in this sitch and not living together can't be good, can it? **
