If you would like to read my whole stich it is in infidelity... I need help! I found out with evidence that my h IS having an affair. The woman works with me and she is ruthless. Each time I kick him out he goes there. Long story short, last Friday night I caught him rolling his car away from our house. I stopped him and confronted him, I said H, if you leave this house please do not come back. He said swimming, I love you and I love this family and I need to go over there because she sent me an email today and I know she is lying. I said H, that is fine but if you are not back tonight I will pack your things and you can leave. He came home. Next night we ML, had a good night, the next day was mothers day and we spent it together. Monday he went over there at lunch again. Now, lets keep in mind that OW emailed me a letter 2 weeks ago after my h broke it off with her saying how much in love they were and how they were soul mates..and on and on..He has come back multiple times to tell me he loves me and wants to work on the marriage. I dont know what to do at this point. So today, I was talking to a friend and I turned around and low and behold in her cubical she has a quote that he put on twitter. I am trying to be strong. I am trying to save my family but I dont know what to do anymore. I wrote him a letter and discussed boundaries yet I just am full of anxiety about this. I am not sure when and if this affair will ever end...and is it just that...and affair???? I gave him a chance...but this woman wont leave us alone...nor will he stop it to be fair...I dont know who is doing what here.
I said H, if you leave this house please do not come back
And what did you do about it???
Quote:
Next night we ML
This will go on FOREVER unless you actually enforce your boundaries.
To be fair, it is easier said than done but he should have come home to his stuff in boxes on the drive way. You said one thing to him, and showed him who's boss by giving him sex upon his return? Why would any guy stop when they could be double dipping with little or no consequence?
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
My advice would be to go back and re-read your first thread (I just did). It seems to me that all of the advice that you would need is contained in there, and you just never implemented it.
This man is emotionally abusive, in my opinion, and not a man of quality. I can count the times I've said this here on one hand, but he needs to be kicked to the curb -- HARD.
If you would like to read my whole stich it is in infidelity... I need help! I found out with evidence that my h IS having an affair. The woman works with me and she is ruthless. Each time I kick him out he goes there. Long story short, last Friday night I caught him rolling his car away from our house. I stopped him and confronted him, I said H, if you leave this house please do not come back. He said swimming, I love you and I love this family and I need to go over there because she sent me an email today and I know she is lying. I said H, that is fine but if you are not back tonight I will pack your things and you can leave. He came home. Next night we ML, had a good night, the next day was mothers day and we spent it together. Monday he went over there at lunch again. Now, lets keep in mind that OW emailed me a letter 2 weeks ago after my h broke it off with her saying how much in love they were and how they were soul mates..and on and on..He has come back multiple times to tell me he loves me and wants to work on the marriage. I dont know what to do at this point. So today, I was talking to a friend and I turned around and low and behold in her cubical she has a quote that he put on twitter. I am trying to be strong. I am trying to save my family but I dont know what to do anymore. I wrote him a letter and discussed boundaries yet I just am full of anxiety about this. I am not sure when and if this affair will ever end...and is it just that...and affair???? I gave him a chance...but this woman wont leave us alone...nor will he stop it to be fair...I dont know who is doing what here.
HINT:
Parts in bold -- GOOD. He took you seriously, and he responded by backing off.
Part in italics -- NOT SO GOOD. He tested you, and you failed the test. Hence, he repeats his infidelity.
He took you seriously, and he responded by backing off.
He tested you, and you failed the test. Hence, he repeats his infidelity.