The MLCer will take that statement and hear “I need…and you are not meeting those needs. You have failed. “
Then they will lash out, possibly pointing out your shortcomings, to show you how YOU failed as well.
They will come up with reasons that they were unable to meet your needs, and most of those excuses will somehow place the blame squarely on your shoulders.
What is said and what they hear in their head are going to be very different.
Additionally, stating you need anything from them, financially, emotionally, physically, makes them feel pressured…
When the MLCer feels pressure, they will lash out…
It is better with an MLCer, to not have this sort of conversation at all, until they have really begun to come out of the tunnel.
So, while it may seem like there is nothing to argue about, in their minds, there is…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
