Okay, I do have a question about this. He's said it twice now, that I just don't seem to care that he's gone. Once was when I was trying to diffuse & said, "I understand why you would be upset." His response was, "that the point! You're not upset at all!"
And again yesterday, when I wasn't arguing with him (which did happen, briefly) or when I was validating some of the things he was saying, he got upset and would make comments about how he wasn't going to "fake being happy" or "pretend that everything is fine".
You confused him... changed the rules on him.. he expected one thing from you, and you changed it up..
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Does he want me to feel like crap? Does he think that seeing me crushed is going to make him feel better?
In my opinion, yes he does at first.. because then he feels justified in all that he is doing.. then the guilt sets in because deep down the feelings may still be there.. When they see you strong and happy that makes them doubt themselves.. and they don't want to go there.. because that means they have to look at themselves.. and they are doing everything they can not to have to...
Just my take on the above... FWIW
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