Gardener, thanks for your words of advise. I have no need for the wedding album or video. I was thinking that I could stay here without any emotional issues or ties. I"m not so sure now. STBXW is leaving a lot behind, so, eventually my move will be tough.

She seems quite happy, focused on school. Remember, that, we are four years out and 2 1/2 years post filing. It truly comes to a close within the next 2 weeks when she leaves. Both kids bedroom furniture is going with them (and I totally agree with that...they should be in their own beds).

If there is one thing I am most bitter about it's the treatment that we men receive. Working makes us less better parents? I don't think so. XW will have to work.

XW will take a hutch in the kitchen, her dresser and mirror, an area rug, china/crystal, coffee table, yada yada. She left many big ticket items behind which, I would have done too if I was the one leaving.

Hey...I keep the flat panel TV. LOL.

I'd be curious tho': would anyone feel free to post their feelings here/experiences in the immediate post-split period? Like Gardener did above: what did you do and how did you cope?

Thanks. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;