Re the seamstress - my wife had a beautiful dress made via a similar experience. She hated every minute of the fussing and the fittings, but all her friends loved it!
You must let us know how it turns out. Maybe Iceland isn't the place for HM given the volcano issues! I do know some good friends who got married and had HM in Tuscany, and had the most wonderful time. Lake Como is also a lovely italian destination.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
