I know of few things that can cause a man to feel like he is not taking care of his family "like a man" when he is disabled. People can't help being in chronic pain but it still hurts his male pride. We women just think we are "dealing" and doing whatever needs to get done the quickest or best way. We can actually get into the habit of forgetting our H's imput on things.
As I have told some folks, we women have to "let" him be the head of the home. In other words, we give him that place. It is a grave responsibility but if he wants to be the leader, then you are blessed. I know it's hard, but you can learn how to do it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
