LOL... apparently he hates it when I'm not immediately forthcoming with info. He even told me that tonight himself by saying he doesn't like it when I don't answer him directly because it makes him think I'm hiding something. Gee... Pot. Kettle. But I DIDN'T say it. No matter how much I wanted to. Go me. And I'm amazed he even told me that when before he wouldn't talk about any kind of emotion of his.
I just need to make sure I don't start doing the same thing back to him again because a convo like that in the reverse is me being controlling.
A conversation like that IS controlling. It doesn't matter who is doing it.
Don't make the mistake of making more of this than is there however.
If this man is in an EA and using you as a "friend" (emotional support + backup plan), then he might be worried you are going to do something like visit a lawyer or return the favor with your own affair, or he might just have wanted to get out, and since you didn't invite him, he was inviting himself.
Your situation cannot improve while there is an A or EA in progress. Any seeming progress is an illusion while that is still going on. He already made a choice, and that choice was to continue his infedility with you as his backup plan. You are not his priority if there is an A or EA going on. Period.
That's a tough pill to swallow, I know from experience.
At this point, you really, really need to begin detaching so that you can plan for a life without him because if the affair continues, that's where this is all headed.
Assume that you must move on alone, and plan accordingly. Believe nothing while this affair continues.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
