I'm not sure he wants to talk to me about anything, including the R. From what I've read here, when it's time to drop off/pickup our children I should just be cordial, but not overly involved, right? Like I was having a brief interaction with someone at the grocery store. I wouldn't ask the man who grabbed the last can of baked beans wth he thought he was doing, right? Same thing here, friendly, not pushy, not nosy, not overly involved.
What do I say to him if he asks about me, though? Same thing? Like the guy who grabbed the baked beans turns to me & asks how I'm doing or what I've got planned for this weekend? The chances are it's small talk, he's trying to smooth over the awkwardness of the situation, and not ready to talk about dating or moving in together. Am I on the right track here? Don't read anything into anything?
There was a message on the answering machine from H last night, he'd called to talk to the kids. I dialed the number, handed the phone to S6 & got busy doing other things. i peeked my head out as S2 was talking, just to make sure he hadn't laid the phone down somewhere. S8 came to me, handed me the phone & said that S2 had accidentally hung up before he'd had the chance to talk.
"Okay, here, I'll just hit redial." "That's okay." "It's not a problem, S." "No, mom. It's okay." "You don't want to talk to your dad?" "Not right now."
I could feel one of the jagged pieces of my heart break a little further.
Is that normal for a kid that young to already be so mad that he doesn't want to talk to his dad? I'm not discouraging a relationship with him--they know that they are never going to have to choose sides.
It just hurts seeing him upset.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
