Originally Posted By: OfficerInNeed
My question is, how detached do I get? Do I start to change bills in her name into mine?


You are making the common mistake where people assume that "detaching" means "splitting up". That's not the case at all.

Detaching means giving up control of the other person and not letting their reactions and emotional states affect yours.

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

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