Aw, Ladies, I'm not that amazing; I'm not the only one who has utilized what's been learned through this crisis. Each person that has come through the fire has a testimony to share that is just AS amazing as what I've shared about myself.
I was always open about what I saw/endured; though it was but ONE way that a person could go, there ARE many people that navigated this successfully that posted/are posting here, regardless of how each individual situation turned out.
There are people here from ALL walks of life..each MLC has its own flavor, and I was trying to tell people that same thing even before I left in mid 2003.
To be quite honest, when I first got a handle of what was going on in the aforementioned, I actually had at first thought I'd done something wrong, or that I had missed something...I didn't..but I THOUGHT for a time that I did.
Yet, I didn't, and so the whole drama has played out as it should.
MH, you are correct, I already know that my husband and I are starting to connect in a stronger way, and the marriage is rebuilding once again on a much firmer foundation than before.
You find after you and your spouse go through different things together, it will either separate you or bring you together in a stronger way than you ever thought.
In other words, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger..and that is very true within marriage, too.
I'd always tried to encourage people, regardless of how bleak a situation looked, there is ALWAYS something good to be found within...I'm an eternal optimist; knowing there IS a silver lining in every cloud...we just have to learn to know where to look.
The compassion within me for hurting people has never changed; it may look like I'm hitting people with a 2X4 at times, but it is for good reason, and I will always explain why I'm saying what I'm saying.
I may have forgotten the majority of what I went through, but I'm no stranger to suffering; having done it for most of my life.
I don't talk much when I'm having problems, not wishing to put things on people who have SO much on their plates...and so, I just listen, advise, and commit what's happening with me to the Lord to handle.
And handle it, He has; helping me to learn to cope with so many different things in my life, and in turn that has built my faith and trust in Him.
Don't think for ONE minute you cannot gain what I have gained..you CAN, and you CAN reach forgiveness, acceptance and healing..time is a major factor, but you can and will get there; I did, and I KNOW you can.
I know at times I sound like an old fashioned "bible beater"..but I will tell you this: if it hadn't been for Him keeping me within His Hands throughout; I wouldn't be here now nor would I have shown up in the first place.
But He allows things to happen for a reason..holding all our futures in the very palm of His hand.
My understanding of Him became MUCH deeper through his MLC.
And I'm very grateful for what I went through and grew from, as it actually drew me much closer to Him than I had ever been in my life.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
