AND I MEAN EVERYONE that's posting on this thread on the last two pages.
As an outsider some of it looked like an attack and rysom some of it looked like you had lost it for a minute, it happens.
Rysmom if he's having an affair. Read the resources it's a band aid!!!You had the best of him for a lot of years, show him you're still the better option.
Stop the getting on the computer,EXCEPT TO come here, that's it.
AND THAT IS IT!
I of all the people in the last year have posted some of what you have,YOU can't worry about what's he's doing, shoot, he doesn't know what he's doing!
Don't embarrass yourself too much, I posted like a hamster on crack, big deal if someone ripped me, they were there before me and compared to what they or I was going thru it really didn't matter.
At the beginning we're all looking for the magic bullet or the quick fix, it's not there.
And sometimes people a little further along forget about what they went thru.
And that isn't phrased rite, they have the hindsight of trying to stop us from doing what they did and they're going to be rough on us sometimes.
But an ultimatum, now that isn't the way to get anyone to change or listen.
EVERYONE ON HERE OR HAS BEEN HERE OR JUST BEING A PERSON WE'RE IMPORTANT.
Don't threaten to go somewhere else if someone isn't understanding, most of us bought every kind of relationship book we could get our hands on, all of us have different languages.
And we wouldn't be here if we weren't abandoned so to even think about abandoning one of our own, come on.
AND WE'RE GOING TO HURT, that easy, we're not going to have the financial support we had or can offer and we got a whole new world of omg's.
SO LONGTIMERS HAVE SOME PATIENCE WITH HER PLEASE.
And for a bit us LBS' we don't know what we're doing either.
I still don't ok, but I can tell you this.When someone tells you to breathe, they mean count to 1000 cry whatever you have to do and man it hurts, but you do not know what tomorrow will bring.
But if you spend anytime trying to figure him out other than hey listen he's MLC, that's it, MLC, there is no rhyme or reason and we all felt abandoned and scared as hell, still do.
If someone posts something you disagree with blow it off, use the information and if it doesn't apply to your sitch, just flat blow it off, there is no reason to defend yourself.
Why even bother giving an explanation, THIS IS ABOUT GETTING OUR SELF ESTEEM BACK.
Sometimes to tell war stories, but ultimately....
We all have been where you are, some have lost a bunch of money, some didn't lose any.IT'S MONEY,you can have it, you can lose it, BUT IT'S MONEY, IT CAN BE MADE BACK!
Some of what I read, you do need to re read, because this is not to be funny, but man it was spelled out on the history on your google maps. and much like an MLC'er you denied what was being posted to you, I lost count at 3 that made sense, but you were too worked up.
If the MLC'er is going to do what's right for them, then you do what's rght for you, but unlike them you're sane enough to go 32 yrs and you were never happy?IS THAT RIGHT.
you're going to get advice from not only your posts but reading others threads, MLC what they do to us, it's pretty text book, what we do, now that isn't.
Take my hand and don't be called a hamster on crack, read other threads and the resources and if he contacts you, post it, other than that just learn, if anything the more you learn about it, the easier it is for you to laguh it off and focus on praying and getting your self esteem back.
I did not proofread this and well It is what it is.
