Um, yeah, we are getting a ton of rain too. Actually a steady drizzle/mist all day after the stormy 5:30-6:30 am session. At least thunder is exciting, drizzle is just, drizzle...
Exactly. And I am at work. I could have stayed in bed, or at least on the couch with a blanket, but noooooo I have to make a living....
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
And yet as we all know, this kind of crap is happening more and more often. People have become disposable. If you throw one a way, a new one comes along. And when you get bored, you can throw that one away as well, and get a newer model.
I just don’t know anymore. What happened to the days when people fought to stay married, to work the issues out? Even if the fighting isn’t successful, at least you TRIED.
Yep. I recall an interview I saw on CBS Sunday Morning last year. The person being interviewed was some prominent-for-decades broadway lyricist or something who, as it turns out, had recently lost his gay partner of sixty-one years(!)
The interviewer gave his condolences and then asked their longevity secret. Octegenarian Lyricist looked at the interviewer like he had two heads and said incredulously, "We never gave up on each other! People now give up on each other way too easily, way too often. It's what they do."
I quoted this to at-the-time STBX and asked her, "Is that what we're about to do here? Give up on each other?! Not me. I will not." Unfortunately she listened with her then all-to-common dead eyes and disdainful face. She decided on D 5 days later.
As I say ad nauseam: Vows = "I am the one person who will never give up on you!" (sigh)
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Yeah I jumped over. And I've got to agree. XW's OM was someone she knew from high school and they connected on FB. And not to get into details, and obviously I'm going to say this, but this guy is a loser. XW told me recently, "I thought I was in love." And I thought about that for a couple of days, and finally asked her, "how little do you respect yourself?"
But as I mentioned, I've found a lot of support through this process by reconnecting with people on FB, yeah, some from high school. In the end - it facilites human relationships - the good and the bad elements. There's nothing new there - but it really does grease the rails.
BobbiJo - yes. Good comment. I've been thinking about this lately actually.
"We never gave up on each other! People now give up on each other way too easily, way too often. It's what they do."
Yeah. This is what I said to XW Monday night actually. In the course of the conversation I told her that what she had done was wrong. And she responded "We were seperated." (Yeah we've had this exchange before) And I said, "No. You gave up on us." That's really the kicker. And I was finally able to articulate it. The rest is just fallout.
I remember about a month after the bomb. I had spoken to the SG on the phone, and asked him if he loved me. He said yes, but...blah blah blah. The following Monday we got togther for a meeting, and I had all these wonderful ideas for how we could really make sure that the lack of communication didn't happen again. After hearing him take back the fact that he loved me, I told him "fight for me. Fight for us!"
He said no.
Even thinking about this breaks my heart, but also makes me laugh a little. I went out and bought colored posterboard and made this sign that said NOW...with the idea that if something was going that wrong and one of us held up the sign, the other would know that it was serious. That was a good friend's suggestion.
Even after, he told me he was still in love with me for six months. But he had made up his mind, and wasn't going to work on it. And he just walked away.
He gave up too. Without even trying.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Okay I just had the strangest email conversation with the SG about sex.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
It was strange. He accused me of being a "nice" girl. I told him I was not as nice as he thought, and it went on from there. Nothing graphic, it was just weird. At the end of it he said well the Tween is older now, you can go out for a few hours, and I said please. The Tween is w/ XH on the weekends. You think I haven't taken advantage of that???
WTF?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
