California, community property state...pretty much anything a spouse does with or without the knowledge of the other spouse is still the responsibility of both...that is why as soon as I realized the path my H was going down, I got a LS...so I only got stuck with 10K...had I done my homework I could have backed out of that but I panicked and changed it to 0% card...sounded like the smart thing to do until I found out that I was only an "authorized user" and not really responsible for what was on it once I got the LS...
I protected myself, my assets, my children...and I am financially stable at this time...H, well he still needs to file BK...but I don't because I have a LS...there is always a way to protect yourself...but if you sit there and throw up the white flag you will be taken prisoner everytime!
rysmom, you may have a disability, but once you are aware of it you are responsible for it...I work with special needs kids...the ones who thrive are the ones who are not treated "special"...they take responsibility and do what they can, trying their best...
You are using your disability, your weaknesses...you want us to tell you what to do only so you can tell us what you did...and how upset you are...how unfair things are...how you can't take it anymore...poor you...you wish you could be strong...bla bla bla
Take responsibility...you have a son, you have managed through life this far...do what you need to do and stop whining about everything and LOOKING for problems where some may not even exist!!! At this point I don't think anyone would blame your husband for not coming home (not condoning an affair) because your not worth coming home to right now!
Sorry...but you need more then this board can give...attention is not enough for you!
