Soaring Solo 2010

[Gardener]

Journaling,

Just politely emailed X a simple question about a piece of furniture and the whereabouts of a key.

She answered my two questions politely (or at least neutrally) and then said that our realtor didn't know a thing about a house comment I recently relayed to her. She ended it with

Oh, one other thing.
I spoke to Realtor about the (issue). Funny. He didn't know what I was talking about.
Nice to know you're still lying to me when it suits you. Reaffirms my decision every time.

I replied, thanking her for her answer about furniture and key. I told her that I had asked realtor about my part of (issue) and

Perhaps I misunderstood Realtor when he was here and I asked him (issue). I thought his reply re: me applied to you, too. I apologize for making that assumption by extension.
And, really, the snottiness and false accusation is uncalled for.

Funny, as I go through the anger stage, I find that my anger is about X's walking away, D'ing, editing, demonizing (like above), etc. IOW, I'm angry mostly about things in the past.

This comment bothered me not at all and I felt no need to respond - respond in kind, that is.

Felt good, but still I find myself wondering if I'm detached or just "taking" her e-spew and thus reverting to conflict-avoidance-at-all-costs.

Probably it's just that I don't give a sh!t anymore and will give her neither satisfaction, ammo, nor "evidence" that she's "right" about Demon Me.