Mind you, you don't have to say it through clenched teeth. After all, you are just explaining to her what you have decided for yourself. Every marriage that has gotten to the point yours has ends up reconciled or dissolved in the long run. You are just trying to get rid of the nasty middleman, limbo.
Not a problem. I am oddly calm about the whole mess at the moment. I still can't get over the hump of worrying about the kids. If, under the best circumstances, I get 50-50 custody, that is still 50% of their lives that I will miss out on. That's if it comes to a D. Not giving up. I know that we could do this. Oh, well. Said that a million times already. It will either sink in with her or it won't.
The sad thing is, the WAS doesn't think of the kids. Face it, if the kids were top of mind for them, they would have never allowed themselves to give in to the temptation of another.
It absolutely sucks. The impact on the kids is unfortunate, but also unavoidable. Inevitably, if you bring up the kids, the WAS will shut you down saying it is not about them, it is about the two of you. They are in denial, and revealing the selfishness of the affair.
The only hope is that when the rubber hits the road, they will see the impact on the kids and say "What am I doing?!?" But it is hard to see this happening from someone who let the situation deteriorate to the point of an affair which shows total disregard for the welfare of the children.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
