New to me I guess. I've typcially been kind of shy and aloof. Funny what talking to people can do.
Originally Posted By: LolaL
It’s a double edged sword to get into that kind of conversation
You know, I wasn't quite sure where it was going until we were into it. Funny, someone tells you they're going through something similar, and you almost huncker down and trade war stories. Then you start to realize... oh - you're a WAS. I asked her if her H wanted to save it, and she said of course, as he felt he couldn't live without her. After awhile you kind of run out of things to say. You don't want to be - what - encouraging I guess - so I just kind of listened and spoke from my own experiences. I don't know what's going on in their situation, so who knows.
Wow Lola, things can get messy, can't they...
Originally Posted By: LolaL
Although I love Facebook, you can hop onto my thread and read my rant about it…
I will. FB seems like it was a significant enabler of both XW talking to OM, and me finding sources of support. I'm kind of love/hate too, but kind of like - say a knife - just a tool that can be helpful or damaging depending on how you use it.
Originally Posted By: v1olin
Ewww, yeah, stay away from the XOXO chick on facebook!
Yeah... I really don't know her that well. I was really more "Um - huh? Oh. Uh oh." than "eww" but yeah - "caution".
It's really, really, strange to realize - this sounds familiar - like my XW. And your husband - wow - that was me... and you're confiding to me on FB and so that makes me... no way in hell.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
I don't get that! even though she knows you're all she ever wanted, she's a mess, she's broken over what she's done yet she doesn't want to be with you...can someone explain this to me please?? WAS and their weird logic!
Oh, I get it. She says she can't have what she wants. I'm "everything she wants" but from her perspective I haven't given it to her. What was her metaphor - like the ice cream sundae behind the glass that you can't get to. We can debate how much merit her perspective has, and it's all about your point of view I guess, but that's it in a nutshell.
Anyway. Picked the kids up. XW's comment this afternoon was "I don't want to be anywhere near you, I'm grieving." OK.
Wow, I mostly feel relief. I wonder if this is going to well up and sucker-punch me soon.
OK I keep typing things and deleting them because they're not fully-formed thoughts. Something along the lines of not all WAS's sound crazy; only mine did. Oohhhhh perspective, you've been trying to get in for awhile, haven't you?
