Although he lied that he would give our M a chance, and yet never really did - complained we never talked about the "big issues" in the M< but never brought any up, including the fling, and got very defensive and shut down when I brought up deeper issues of why our M got where it did and what I was going through at the time (in MC). He showed up and listened, but ultimately seems to not care or try. He has continued to hold the position of total blame - "you abandoned me, not the other way aroun;, I don't have to change, you do; This M was doomed from day one and I should have seen it and not put up with your crap ever - should have never married you" etc etc etc....
