Mila,

I have to say I was AMAZED, as I always am, when something comes to pass that I'd seen ahead.

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What is he asking? How am I suppose to understand this? Does he only want to go with D, or am I included? Or is he planning to take OW? I have no idea what to reply to that. So I didn't yet...



Reading further down, I was relieved to see that SA got the same thing I did from reading your post, he is testing the waters..IF you answer him, you will open a door that for now needs to stay CLOSED...he is using this as an excuse for dialogue, to see if you'll back down on what you said to him about not having contact as long as the OW is in the picture.

The no contact is part of his consequences for keeping a third party within his marriage...I'm not sure how else to phrase what I'm hearing....He has to understand the tie HAS been cut, and no contact will continue until he decides what to do with her...

You'd made that VERY clear to him, and he DOES remember that..but is trying, like a child to break the darkness...if you do, he will see this as being OK..when it is NOT.

He is suffering a great deal of guilt, confusion...and OW is not helping matters with her neediness..he cannot handle her AND himself...he's beginning to realize that.
OW, on the other hand, is fighting the SAME battle, but still trying to justify her actions toward her family.
She, like your husband is definitely having a MLC of her own...and trying to sort what her husband has "done to her."

Shoot, she's suffering consequences just like your husband is.

My human advice to her husband would be to refuse to carry her half of the load..the children are just as much her responsibility, as they are HIS..and if she doesn't watch it, she will lose custody of those children.
She'll have to pay child support and all that, IF this goes on through...if her husband is determined, the divorce WILL go through.....but what OW doesn't realize is that God works in mysterious ways, and IF that your husband turns back toward you, she will lose it ALL, EVERYTHING....and it's going to bad for her.
Like you say, she is NOT your concern, and you're absolutely right...your husband would be what you're concerned about.

You've let him go into the hands of the Lord...and it is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the Creator.

Some things are going to happen within the next few days, and they are not going to be good on that end.

Be glad you are NOT in the line of fire, Mila...this is going to get interesting....I believe you will get another call from OW's husband about this....I'm also seeing that you will be able to keep up with what's going on, at least from OW's husband's part; you'll find out more than you think...you'll be able to further see how things go from that angle.
OW's husband may ask you for some advice, and you're to tell him what you are given to tell him. You'll know what to say.

All gloves have been cast off, and the real battle begins..the gauntlet has been thrown down.

Cryptic, but is all I've got at this point.

I have never understood why He talk in so many riddles...but things are affected by so many factors, and sometimes, we have to think things through to get answers.

Stay open to His guidance, Mila...I know He speaks to you, He's confirmed that within me.

Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.