Ladies, it all turned out fine..after two hours of waiting, the Petro showed up with fuel for me...like I said, expensive lesson, but the Lord was with both of us; me and the service guy. He'd set his cones out into the right lane so he could get his hose, and a truck came along and hit TWO of the cones sending them up into the air...fortunately, neither one of us was in harm's way. It's fine to tell me I am a DUMMY for having done that, I've actually found quite a bit of humor in the situation. I was told that the NEXT time I got prompted to stop for fuel, I was to NOT ask questions...just do it. LOL!!
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I have been working on changing the prayer and I think I will add it to my daily prayers soon, but the prayer I will be saying will be more like asking the Father to put a hedge of thorns around my H WHEN he is ready to come back, but in the meantime, to work on H's HEART so that I am in there in his dreams and his thoughts - confusing him, maybe, but in his HEART so his thoughts will follow. Remember, God gives us free will and will not tamper with that.
Exactly right, BUT, you have to ask for HIS will to be done, also to ACCEPT His Will...and be able to let go of the situation so He can work within said situation. The bible has illustrated again and again where God worked within people's HEARTS...not their minds. Pharoah is a classic example, God hardened Pharoah's heart so His glory would be shown in that particular situation.
The Lord directed me at a certain time to pray for Him to work within my husband's heart, as what is in the mind the heart will follow.
We have to be willing to let go and let God work...In Mila's case, it was TIME for the hedge of thorns prayer...I had gotten that very strongly, as her husband is in a decision making process at this point. If you do not feel this prayer is correct for your spouse, do not pray it...ask the Lord to direct your prayers in such a way that will help your spouse and you.
God has given me things before to say to people, and it is always with an humble heart that I see them come to pass. I'm wrong, sometimes, and situations have been such that a decision was made that changed what I'd "seen".
One of the things that has frustrated people in the past when I was here before was, that I would get information for some people, but not for others...I had and have NO control over who gets what and when.
MH, there are times when you are interfering with your husband's journey, and I believe the Lord has shown you that several times, letting you know to leave him alone, so the Lord can work on him. Sometimes, you feel that you are "helping" the Lord, when you're really not; He does NOT need our help at all...by what you THINK you're doing, you can "tie" His hands and make a situation worse when you take matters in your own hands. He cannot work when you are interfering, so let it all GO, GAL, work on yourself..and leave your husband to God.
He is the ONLY one who knows what is best for your husband, and will direct your prayers in the way they should go...you NEED to listen to Him; and stop arguing with Him about different things...just DO what He tells you to do WHEN He tells you to do it.
You will keep on until you literally "chase" your husband out the door, and he will go on with whatever he decides to do WITHOUT you...this is a warning STRAIGHT from the Lord, and you've gotten this before. You MUST stand back and allow your husband to fall and crack his head if that is what it takes.
The Lord knows I love all of you, and feel for you....I've been there, done that, made my mistakes, followed what He told me to do....sometimes I disobeyed Him...and caused things to take LONGER than they should have IF I'd kept my mouth shut, and just went on with my life....letting the LORD handle it all.
It was WHEN I totally let go of my husband...went on with my life, that I felt him stepping on my heels, coming to catch up with me.
All the while I KNEW that decision belonged to my husband, NOT me...and I was finally willing to wait for that to happen when I let it ALL go...my trust in the Lord grew ever stronger as time went on.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
Look at the bright side at least you weren't in an airplane when you ran out, or over the ocean. You could pull over and call for more. Glad you and the truck are OK. Just your wallet and your pride are injured.
I have to say I was AMAZED, as I always am, when something comes to pass that I'd seen ahead.
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What is he asking? How am I suppose to understand this? Does he only want to go with D, or am I included? Or is he planning to take OW? I have no idea what to reply to that. So I didn't yet...
Reading further down, I was relieved to see that SA got the same thing I did from reading your post, he is testing the waters..IF you answer him, you will open a door that for now needs to stay CLOSED...he is using this as an excuse for dialogue, to see if you'll back down on what you said to him about not having contact as long as the OW is in the picture.
The no contact is part of his consequences for keeping a third party within his marriage...I'm not sure how else to phrase what I'm hearing....He has to understand the tie HAS been cut, and no contact will continue until he decides what to do with her...
You'd made that VERY clear to him, and he DOES remember that..but is trying, like a child to break the darkness...if you do, he will see this as being OK..when it is NOT.
He is suffering a great deal of guilt, confusion...and OW is not helping matters with her neediness..he cannot handle her AND himself...he's beginning to realize that. OW, on the other hand, is fighting the SAME battle, but still trying to justify her actions toward her family. She, like your husband is definitely having a MLC of her own...and trying to sort what her husband has "done to her."
Shoot, she's suffering consequences just like your husband is.
My human advice to her husband would be to refuse to carry her half of the load..the children are just as much her responsibility, as they are HIS..and if she doesn't watch it, she will lose custody of those children. She'll have to pay child support and all that, IF this goes on through...if her husband is determined, the divorce WILL go through.....but what OW doesn't realize is that God works in mysterious ways, and IF that your husband turns back toward you, she will lose it ALL, EVERYTHING....and it's going to bad for her. Like you say, she is NOT your concern, and you're absolutely right...your husband would be what you're concerned about.
You've let him go into the hands of the Lord...and it is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the Creator.
Some things are going to happen within the next few days, and they are not going to be good on that end.
Be glad you are NOT in the line of fire, Mila...this is going to get interesting....I believe you will get another call from OW's husband about this....I'm also seeing that you will be able to keep up with what's going on, at least from OW's husband's part; you'll find out more than you think...you'll be able to further see how things go from that angle. OW's husband may ask you for some advice, and you're to tell him what you are given to tell him. You'll know what to say.
All gloves have been cast off, and the real battle begins..the gauntlet has been thrown down.
Cryptic, but is all I've got at this point.
I have never understood why He talk in so many riddles...but things are affected by so many factors, and sometimes, we have to think things through to get answers.
Stay open to His guidance, Mila...I know He speaks to you, He's confirmed that within me.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
You are absolutely correct..my wallet and pride took a hit..but like the inflatable doll that never falls, I bounce back for another hit somewhere else, LOLOLOLOLOL!!
Thanks for reminding me about the ocean...I'd be drowned by now, if I'd been flying over that, LOL!!
Have a good one!
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
HB, I'm going to post to you on the alt b/c I don't want to thread-jack her again... but if what you say is true, Mila, I am really praying for you tonight.
HB I was also AMAZED when your email prediction came through. Wow....Interesting that you think that he is just testing waters...he may be doing it subconsciously. Could it also be that if I don't reply he will just book it with OW and in his mind it will be justified?...Because I didn't reply? I guess it could. Part of me just wants to reply "I'm looking forward to it it, will be fun"...
I sure hope that although it looks like a "done deal" on the surface that WH is suffering a great deal of guilt and confusion and hopefully is examining his feelings and reevaluating his decision. Who knows what is going on behind the scenes.
I certainly feel something is up, but I have no idea what it means. HB you seem to have very strong feelings about the situation and there is nothing that I wish for more then for you to be right.
All I know is that I believe in US and that I have a very strong feeling that we are not "done" yet. I had this feeling right from the beginning of this ordeal and it's as strong as ever. I've tried to dismiss it as "wishful thinking" but it's very persistent and it's still there no mater what WH does or says.
Let's watch and see what happens
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OP is right; let's watch, wait and see what happens.
I get the feeling he's going to try again with possibly the same subject..funny thing; he KNOWS what he's doing. He's using anything for an excuse to try and get you to break your silence to him...He KNOWS what he has to do...so let it all go.
Don't let it mess with your head, stay dark/dim on him; at least on the personal stuff.
I will be back later to check on you.
I just got my first drop off in CO...and will have to ride for awhile to make delivery.
Have a good one.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
When I saw west coast I was going to ask you. Are you a hockey fan? I am still sad over our loss. Anyway are right in the city? I am from East Vancouver.
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