I agree with what Alice said (if I don't she'll kick my butt! lol)

No seriously, listen to her and don't feel discouraged. Keep some hope alive. As a father I looked to my W for most those types of things to be put in place first. I'd help out financially or when she asked for a specific thing to be done. We're like computers, give us a running list of things and we'll do them. For me it was like the birds building a nest, once it starts to take shape I'd jumped in to help out and reciprocate. So while the initial work might fall on your shoulders once thing settle down into a routine I'm sure he'll help with it.

You know him better than anyone else and while his head is in a different place right now do you feel that his core values are fundamentally flawed? I would have a tough time believing that only because you of all people wouldn't be with someone like that for so long. So keep the hope alive, give it some time, it'll be OK.

(((HotFlowMom))) smile

Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again