A very real issue is that she has an image of me that seems to be a conglomeration of every bad memory she has ever had in our entire relationship. It doesn't matter what I am now; she refuses to see it.
I think that's pretty common if they are still in the fog. As we've read hundreds of times; consistency, so they know the changes are real, and no pressure.
One question that I don't think I've ever asked you: Do you think separation has helped or hurt your sitch and why?
I guess I'm trying to prepare myself for what seems like the inevitable next step in my sitch. Some of the success stories, i.e. Coach & Greek, had a physical separation and it worked out for them. I know it is not necessarily the last straw and living together has it's advantages, just wondering where you think you would be right now if you hadn't separated.
