Those were the things I needed to hear. I've been here since last year, but I haven't posted before. I've been reading and watching very carefully though, trying to find similarities and taking advice from other threads. I have been in limbo for a long time, and I did focus strictly on myself and daughters, but the dynamic is now changing. My spouse communicates regularly and is showing basic affection again. Neither of us is looking or engaging in dating.
She was in an emotional affair at the beginning, and things were at their worst. She ended it for some reason last August and has been seeking out positive influences in her life. She's finally accepting me back into her life slowly, and I'd like to remain consistently loving and caring. The sexual attraction thing bothers me, as well as her, but I have to remember exactly what robx and sandi2 said: "No expectations!" and "remain consistent".
I saw a change in her, and my expectations changed. That is what got me into trouble. I need to get back to reading and reminding myself. This is so very difficult, but in the end, I believe it will all be worth it (regardless of the outcome).
M:39 W:37 Together: 16 years Married: 11 years Bomb: May '09 (ILYBNILWY) Moved out: Nov '09 D: 10, 8, 4
