If You Forget Me #71

[RedHeadWife]

K - I just read your thread & I feel for you, girl. I completely understand how you feel about things & I'm 3 yrs post-bomb/piecing.

Trust is a really hard thing to rekindle. And where you talked about respecting him as a man after all he's done, I completely understand! Oh, the horrible things he said during the D sitch! He even told me that our youngest was conceived one night when I wasn't really up to it & that every time he looked at our youngest, he thought about all the rejection, etc. that went along w/ our SL!

I'm still muddling through dealing with, living with, figuring out, whatever, whatever, all this stuff. I think it's going to be a lifetime process. I just remind myself that I don't want H and I to look at each other when all 3 boys are gone & wonder what the he!! we still have together, so I make sure I do the work that's necessary to try to keep our M going.

Yeah, it sounds like it sucks, like we had to do the work to get us here and we have to continue to do the work to keep things going, but essentially it is what it is.

Most of the time, my H still wants to just sweep things under the rug and forget everything and I think that's a normal guy thing. With a lot of things you end up having to decide whether you can live with them or not and, if not, what you can do about that.

I'll keep reading along.