Hey tbart, you are are very much alike. I too had/still have a problem with having zero expectations and feeling like my H should be doing more... it's very frustrating, I know. I also see you have alot of anger and resentment. In order for you to move past this and have a real shot at this M, you need to allow yourself to feel those feelings and let go of those feelings in order to move on with your M.

What your W said is right, she needs time (she, I'm sure is still very confused) and she needs consistency, she needs to be sure that this is for real and that you're going to go back to where you were before.

Hugs to you. I know how stressful this is. Go out there and GAL and find a way to keep yourself and your mind occupied.


M: 32
H: 34
S:5
D: 3
D: 1
Together 11 years
Married 7
Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off)
ILYBINILWY: 08/09

"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting."
-Laura Munson