Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

OK so I went to the court and they said W's attorney called and cancelled it. oops! she did send me the email saying she was ok with settling out of court but I didn't know she'd cancel it.

The law is that if one party shows up they'll penalize the other party. So I told them it was a misunderstanding and I'd like to cancel it too. They did, thankfully.

I called STBXW on my way back and she was surprised to hear that I went to court, sounded scared too saying 'but you told me to cancel it' so I calmed her down saying it's ok and I told them to cancel it from my end too. I told her I really meant the court date that's at the end of the month and to decide the financial stuff ourselves, let the lawyers look it over and file. She said 'that's fine...' then got interrupted, she said she was in the check out line at the store and if she could call me back. So we'll need to discuss this more, preferrably in person.

So even though I had to take the day off and drive and deal with the emotional part of going to the court etc I feel sad that she did listen to me and cancel it.

She did complain that I didn't even respond to her email yet.

So that was weird...

Anyway,