Not sure I can deal with H's MLC anymore

[Cadet]

I'm a fix-it/control addict and the hardest part for me is to stop trying to fix my M. It scares me to death to just doing nothing.

Have you ever detached and gone NC with your H?

This is the first thing that you need to learn how to do. You need to give him space and you need to stop trying to fix him, or interact with him.