I'm glad to hear that I'm doing that much right. It feels like he's just angrier at me for it…
So you got better at it because you had time to practice it, or because you really started to believe it? Or both?
Validation, what you are referencing…
Is an art…
Some of us do it better than others…
Basically though, at least at the beginning, until you really believe what you are saying (which comes with time, forgivness, detatchment, and growth), can be as simple as saying “I understand that you feel that way..” and nothing more.
As far as him seeming angrier at you…
It is part of this…
Until he is ready to change himself, very little of what you do or say, is going to make him happy, or even less angry…
It might seem like it does and then can come back and bite you in the butt later…
Part of the animal of MLC…
So don’t do or say anything based on what you think his reaction might be, do it for YOU and you being true to yourself…
Originally Posted By: shelbel
I'm finding that MLC is a completely different animal than where I was.
It's like I brought bread crumbs to the duck pond, but ended up in the condor cage.
Woah.
MLC…is not for the faint of heart that is for sure…
I hope as you learn more, you will understand a little more the early posts you received…
Keep reading and asking questions…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
