whatnow, Thanks for telling me not to beat myself up. It wouldn't suprise me if there is a law like that in my state, but I doubt it's ever inforced.

I'm a fix-it/control addict and the hardest part for me is to stop trying to fix my M. It scares me to death to just doing nothing.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10