W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Things just took a turn for the worse again. W came home from the Dr. I did not say anything to her, she started to talk to me. She told me that she would not be coming home from work right away tomorrow due to the presidential visit streets surrounding the airport will be closed.

W was talking to fairly OK and we started to fool around with the dog together.

I posted a "general" message on facebook response to one of those quotes she saved. The response was more like a "remember" post. She doe snot know that I seen the quote. So I guess you can say I foolishly tried to manipulate the sitch. My W copied and pasted the message into email and sent it to herself, then trashed it. She is saving these on to her mobile phone.

My W went to the shower came out and laid in bed, when I walked into the room , W was looking at old family photos again. She then asked where a photo of her went. I told her its on my nightstand. Then I asked if you wanted back into the pile. She told me she did.

I handed my W the photo and said "I took it" and she said "I know you did" and I chuckled and said "no, I mean I snapped that picture" and she took the picture and put it away.

I should not had said anything but I did say "I can't even have a picture?" and she said "NO, and soon everything will be wiped away from memory, it will all be over" and as my DB coach advised me to say, I said "I just want you to be happy" W then said as soon as my father's situation calms done and he gets the place ready I am gone" and once again I said "<W name> I just want for you to be happy"

W said nothing for a moment then said "I have to ask my dad for his lawyers number" and I said nothing, W laid head back down and about 3 min later she said "And I don't know what we are going to do about her" as she pointed to the dog, and I said nothing. A few min later, I got up and walked out the room...

This was the first time in over 3 weeks she verbally said she was still leaving. Communication had improved, I am confused about her actions in that she has been uploading pictures of us to the web and she saved the message I posted on facebook. I guess my action of posting that message was more pursuit that I thought.

I am going to give her much space and not say anything to her unless she initiates the convo.