The Love without hurt book is definitely for you. there are parts for the spouse, but it is mostly for the one with anger issues.

He also has a website www.compassionpower.com and bootcamps to attend in the DC area.

To answer your question: It was 3 years from my bomb & me moving out, to the D during that time my XH did try to change, in the end it was him crossing my deal breaker. More information about why I finally filed can be found on my thread(s).

Good luck.
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