Introducing myself and describing my situation

[fudwoman]

Hi Bridge,
Thank you sooooooooo very much for your post. First - you are correct - TODAY I am focusing on my husband - seems to be an ebb and flow to that story and I try to just watch it happen but I often get really stuck - esp. on anger - it's a 'sticky' emotion for me. What you say about walking on eggshells is 100% on target - in fact in the past that's exactly the term that my husband has used to describe his feelings. I do have my moments of having compassion for him and then I get sidetracked. You are absolutely correct though - without emotional safety there can be no intimacy. I'm interested in the books you suggest. I did a Google search for the first one - but it looks like it's about the person on the receiving end of the anger is that correct? If so, I'd rather not read it right now. While I can see it facilitating my compassion for my husband's perspective, I don't think it will help me with my goal of focusing on me and overcoming my anger issues.

On another note - I see you were recently divorced. I'm so sorry to hear that. My question is - did your husband try to change his angry ways or was it too little too late for you? I know your personal experience has no bearing on my own but I am curious to hear about what has transpired for others.

Thanks much!

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