What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

[Bummedout]

Hate to butt in just been following your stich.Don't get me wrong please and im sorry before hand if what i say offends in any way. When you disagree with your wife do you let things drop when you feel that you are right or do you always keep pushing the issue.

I'm only asking because this was one of my 180 that I've worked on and gotten positive results for me this something that i had to change IN my hmmble opinion TWOL

Hey, no need to apologize, Twolf. It wasn't a loaded question, Ridicule-bait etc. Near as I can tell, and I suppose at this point it isn't even off topic anymore.

Surprising as it may be for some here, I don't keep pushing many issues, even if I feel I'm right and don't feel she concurs. I just figure "time" will bear it out either way.

That being said, I did "push" a bit on her relationship with her daughter. Her daughter is very disrespectful to her, though is basically a good kid. I actually get along fine with her daughter, but early on, I made it clear that I don't take any guff, period, particularly from a child. Being a kid, she did test that.

Unfortunately, when we met, her daughter was 14 (and not nearly as disrespectful, but it was starting) and I have been around long enough to know that at that age, some "new guy" coming in and pretending to be the boss wasn't gonna fly.

So, if I had anything to offer, I'd just wait until me and my wife were alone, and run it by her. Unfortunately, as the disrespect and insubordination increased unchecked (really)

I have upped "my critique" of letting her daughter treat her like that, not doing 'a danged thing' about misbehaviour and insubordination, things like that. So on that note, I did
Oversell my points. And after her telling me she felt it 'was over' I did reassess that, and did "do a 180". I think my critique, though valid, was unwelcome, and she resented me for it more than she resents her daughters disrespect.

I meant only the best for both her and her daughter, but for her, it was easier to resent me for pointing it out all the time than to actually stand firm on the unruly child, who does have a much more "forceful" personality in general than her Mom.

I have just accepted the fact there really isn't much I can do about it, trying to interject was getting me nowhere, yet I kept doing it. Thankfully, I was aware enough from my past experience at DBing to spot it.

So . . .yea, good question Twolf.