W still wants separation, need to DB more

[MrBond]

"How do I let her go, without avoiding her?"

You do so by emotionally detaching. When you have good interactions with her, really relish in those and make each communication positive and great.

When she's in her down times where she's quiet or mean, give her space.

A good way to describe it is like when you were first interested in her. When you wanted to get her attention, you bumped up the positive interactions and when you saw she was down or angry, you lent her support, but didn't invest yourself personally in them.

I did this with my W who is not living with me and it's helped our communication immensely. It's not an easy task. But you can do it.