WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Pigskin,

Good morning, read what coach wrote again. Sometimes it is hard to discern when we are to "wait" and when we are to "act". We can cast our cares and worries to the Lord but not our responsibility. Are you enabeling her "poor" behavior? I do not have the answer but you may want to chat with Coach or Puppy Dog Tails. Both are believers and doers from what we can tell of the word. Prayers and blessings to you and your family. Sometimes God needs "Kingdom" men to rise up and take action. Not violence or malicious behavior but action!

If I am enabling her poor behavior I'm not aware of it. Every boundary I can enforce I do.

I don't initiate any contact of any form with her unless it is family business.

I've pretty much done everything in the book without success. Nothing works with her. I've done LRT, 180s, you name it.

A very real issue is that she has an image of me that seems to be a conglomeration of every bad memory she has ever had in our entire relationship. It doesn't matter what I am now; she refuses to see it. If she had any inkling of coming home, she thinks it through, sees the "horrible" pigskin she has created in her mind, and talks herself out of it.

A very tough case. She mentioned yesterday that she sometimes thinks she "should just come back" but doesn't see us ever connecting on a husband/wife level. She definitely could benefit from MC, but I won't do that if the OM is in the picture. She described him as "her best friend".

I'm still planning on meeting with a lawyer to come up to speed on what to expect in a dissolution given our circumstances.

My W's apartment lease is up this month. She told me her options. She wanted to go month to month but it costs $200 more. She also said she talked to the leasing office about what would happen if she took a 6 or 12 month lease and wanted to break it.

I'm beginning to see the end of the month as an opportunity to create motion in our situation. Just like in idontknow's thread, state transparency and MC or get the divorce ball rolling. But I still want to give the Lord time to work and have her church step in as well. I can still be patient, but if she asks to sign a long term lease that may be it for me.