Yes and no. When you show your H your negative reactions.... anger,sadness, guilt, whatever it may be, it is HE that uses it against you. Even if you feel it's justified. He will twist things around and use it against you. Sort of a "see! this is why I'm behaving this way" type of thing. They all do this.
Show him nothing but positives. Don't give him any more ammo.
Okay, I do have a question about this. He's said it twice now, that I just don't seem to care that he's gone. Once was when I was trying to diffuse & said, "I understand why you would be upset." His response was, "that the point! You're not upset at all!"
And again yesterday, when I wasn't arguing with him (which did happen, briefly) or when I was validating some of the things he was saying, he got upset and would make comments about how he wasn't going to "fake being happy" or "pretend that everything is fine".
Does he want me to feel like crap? Does he think that seeing me crushed is going to make him feel better?
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
