1. You are plenty young. My goodness, what the heck are you talking about?
2. A healthy relationship is not in the cards? You haven't been divorced but twenty minutes! Remember the P word?
3. I guess I can accept that people are inherently selfish, but I think a lot of them are also inherently generous. Heck, look at all of us! The Rockettes for goodness sake! And there are guys who are not creeps. There are guys who wouldn't cheat, period. And I think there are a lot of them.
4. Fear.... fear is our biggest enemy. It was our biggest enemy when we were trying to DB. It was our biggest enemy when we realized that to succeed the M had to end. And it's out biggest enemy in trying to find our new life.
Change your outlook on what you are after in dating. Go back to no expectations. If the date seems a disaster, you still learn something. If there's no chemistry, but you have a nice meal, and maybe good conversation, that's a success!
Lola, just be yourself. Don't think f it as "getting back out there", that makes it too big. Just think of it as living, one day at a time!
