Disclaimer - I am the one who cheated in our M, so if this will upset you, please ignore my thread. I"m wanting advice from the betrayed on how to get H back - any and all kind words of advice welcome!
I hope to not upset anyone, but over a year ago, I had a fling. My H found out, left. Waffled for a few months, found his own OW and has pursued a R with her since.
I know I am the one who betrayed - and I have owned it, apologized, gone to C and support groups to figure out why (connected to childhood abuse) and have given H legal separation.
All this said, I am completely remorseful, continue to work on myself and my issues, and have worked on trying to show H how seriously remorseful and changed I am. I know that this can only be shown with actions, not words, but after a year, I am feeling hopeless.
Any advice as to what the betrayed wants/needs? Even with all the pain you have suffered, what is it that makes you want to keep your M? What can I do at this point? I love my H and my child and hope to reconsile someday although I have let my H live his separate life.
We have some MC but it's mostly being used for coparenting as H says "We've already done MC and it didn't work."
I appreciate your support, if it's not too painful to offer it.
