Let's say for the sake of argument that every forum member who has had an experience with a friend and WAS has contributed to your thread. There is no more to share. Then what?
I feel that opening up other channels of your situation can be beneficial. And who knows, it may give you a new angle to address the friend situation although I feel that topic has been exhausted and it's time to focus on something else.
Everybody is welcome to throw in their 2 cents and in return, many people read and learn or get new ideas to apply to their own life.
You have been married before. You said yourself you never really examined the failure of your fist marriage in depth. IMO you should be doing that now for YOU (and it's never too late) but it could benefit other forum members as well.
There is so much precious time and space wasted on this thread with pettiness. If your goal is to rebuild your marriage then why not at least open yourself up to every idea. You do sound very angry and it's hard to understand why. As I said before, the organic nature of this forum is to open up all "parts" of the R two spouses share. Stating you only care to examine one part is sort of limiting IMO.
While it is never easy, sometimes people can see things about us that we can't see. If it could result in a new marriage with your current W then why not at least take some of the observations under consideration?
