Don't let NOT asking, be a regret down the road...
That applies tomore than just lawyers.
Do not let needed words be left unsaid...but wait for the right time.
Do not be afraid to put on the brakes to a course of action you have come to convince yourself of wanting if the opportunity arises. The key part is "have come to convince yourself of".
You seriously have come a long way Eric, it seems like two different people...or the same person who discovered a pot farm in the local state park.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
You know I am always around, just waiting for the opportunity to pounce…
Today may just have to be Trapt’s turn if he isn’t careful who he picks on…
You are doing well my friend…
I haven’t really had much to say as the boys seem to be taking care…
Of course, you always know how to reach me…
Originally Posted By: Jack3Beans
Do not be afraid to put on the brakes to a course of action you have come to convince yourself of wanting if the opportunity arises. The key part is "have come to convince yourself of".
I will agree with Jack about both the brakes and the key…
You still have work to do E…but I know you are up to the challenge…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Would agree..the words though would be tempered with love. The bigger issues is knowing....
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Do not be afraid to put on the brakes to a course of action
Jack - I actually have accepted that I do not control the brakes but point well taken.
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The key part is "have come to convince yourself of".
You are correct this is the key part my friend...the key part.
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You seriously have come a long way Eric
Thank you...FTR...how many 2X4's did it take? At last count I think it was something like 865.
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it seems like two different people...or the same person who discovered a pot farm in the local state park.
Not legal in my state but did I tell you I travel recently
[quote]Can I vote?[quote] I suspect that Mach would vote the pot farm 
Cat
[quote]You still have work to do E[quote] Yes I do Cat…yes I do…actually have a quite a bit left…must address those damn insecurities that still come up from time to time. Need to get a much better handle on the child, so that the adult drives the things that come out of my mouth (and I know you know how much stuff I can spew in a fit).
[quote]but I know you are up to the challenge[quote] That’s what this is about now…and yes I am up for the challenge. Ya know things look/feel differently when you finally stop wearing the masks and just accept the reality and truth that is who oneself is.
Mach -
[quote]Ask for what YOU can live with[quote] That’s the plan… with “fair” being the key word. The one quote from Bill has always remained on the forefront of my mind since this process began…the quote was (many thanks Bill!)….
[quote]Your question...the one you should ask yourself every time you are confronted with some of the ugliness of this process...is a simple one.
What is the right thing to do?
The extremes are to fold and capitulate to her every demand, or to fight back tooth and claw to give back to her every difficulty she gives to you.
The right thing to do will lie somewhere between those two extremes.
The issue is NOT what response will appeal to her - I hope that by now you would not fall in to THAT trap. She is not really the issue here at all. You cannot control her decisions/actions and I think you are well aware of that by now.
But nothing you do as you navigate your way through this thing holds the potential for permanent damage as long as you choose to do the RIGHT thing.
Right is never wrong. Even if a troubled person ACTS like it is wrong. [quote]
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
At last count I think it was something like 865. 