Darn it! I should put a bell around my H's neck - I had a reply all typed out to you and he caught me by surprise. Had to shut down Firefox quickly!

Originally Posted By: timehealsall

I have done alot of thinking and my H has always been sarcastic, a ballbuster, and cocky.. and I think that I'm taking things too personal. Because of my insecurities, I internalize and take everything personal.

I would think it would be hard not to internalize and take things personally with that personality type! That's a difficult communication pattern to break between a couple - I struggle with that a lot. But surely there's ways to do it. What does your IC say about that? One of my self esteem books actually talks about the tendency to personalize things... and I think had some good exercise around that but I haven't done them yet. I just can't quite remember the name of it right now but the authors were McKay and Fanning I think, in case you're interested.

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