I know I can't control her and don't try. I try to control myself but it is hard. My friends are all still miffed by what hashappened. Some days are better than others but I am doing fine...Hope all is well w you as well.
The thing is that everyone in her family has been D'd. Her M was in an abusive R, her F had and adulterous first W, her S got D'd, her B is inmarriage #2 taking care of his D 1 yr old b/c she is a dead beat, Cousin has been and she works w 2 girls that are going thru D as well. The cards are really stacked against me I am seeing, Parents are fine w her and OM. They've have dinner w them afetr a bball game. She has intro my kids to him and "they really like him...', I did set a boundary there, my kids are to no longer be around him at all. At first she said its 'inevitable' but then agreed, but how will I know, he lives in her home town 50 miles from here. She still goes and sees her parents there and I'm sure OM too...
The more I think about it the more I'm ready to call it...its sad but I not a door mat, I'm a H with a f'd up W with no remorse or compassion for me anymore...which is a 180 for her...I don't want to hurt you, it just happened, I didn't plan it....All you have to say is...NO, right!?
