And THAT is why I feel stupid. And wrong. And sick to my stomach.
No, not stupid, just wrong, and just uninformed. Now you have directions to go, go there.
I also started off wrong, I exposed H's A b/c that is what the very wise, very helpful, very nice people over on the infidelity forum told me to do. This is my H's second A... it wasn't until someone on that thread directed me to a website that described my H to a "t" (as you described earlier) that I began to see that this time is different... but now I get it and it's been months and I have lost that time... but I trust that I didn't do any damage that can't be undone.
Trust in that yourself. Find time for yourself. I know I spend WAY too much time reading and absorbing, printing out material, highlighting it, and re-reading it... but I think my learning curve has benefited from all of that. I took off a few days from work to spend on myself, maybe you can do something similar? It really helped me.
