I've been known for going full on b!tch when it comes to standing up against...whatever. Unfortunately, I think I used that power against H instead of using it to fight for him.
Yes and no. When you show your H your negative reactions.... anger,sadness, guilt, whatever it may be, it is HE that uses it against you. Even if you feel it's justified. He will twist things around and use it against you. Sort of a "see! this is why I'm behaving this way" type of thing. They all do this.
Show him nothing but positives. Don't give him any more ammo.
