You will be very surprised at how much you can handel once YOU really UNDERSTAND what you are dealing with. This will come in time and as you read, understand and fully accept that this is his issue.
I pray that this happens, soon.
M&H, that is a really very interesting way of looking at it. I hadn't thought of that. It comes a little late for me when personally interacting with him (since he's asked that there be none), but not too late when it comes to the rest of my Rs IRL.
I can handle the drunk/stoned/mentally ill patients that we get in, even when they are being hateful because I *know* they don't mean it. They mean it, but they don't really mean it about me. It is the reality that they are experiencing, but it doesn't mean I have to live it with them. Whoever made the comment about what if H was in a coma made a good point.
Of course, using that same analogy, would I have recognized that he was actually in a coma and not just pretending to be sleeping so he could ignore me??
It sounds stupid because it is stupid. But that's exactly the way I was thinking about H. He's in a MLC, but I acted like he was just choosing to be a jerk for a very long time.
And THAT is why I feel stupid. And wrong. And sick to my stomach.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
