One thing I learned is that being a doormat has a LOT to do with how you see yourself and your actions.
If you're making dinner every night and it really ticks you off b/c H never says thank you, and sometimes doesn't even show up to eat with the family, and you face it with anger but keep doing it, you're a doormat.
If you're making dinner every night and H never says thank you, and sometimes doesn't even show up to eat with the family, but you keep smiling (INSIDE and outside) and whistling while you work because you know this is about him and yes, he's a jerk, but that doesn't reflect on you - congratulations, you are NOT a doormat.
