Hope

[MarkG]

It's hard to say if she'd leave OM if she had the chance, but at the moment I tend to believe that. She has nowhere else to turn right now because she burned all her bridges. I won't take her in either, not even as a roommate. She has no job and no car, so she's going to have to try really hard to find that 1 last friend who's not angry with her. I'm willing to be friends even with OM in the picture, at least in the sense that I'll let her have my company, and all this will do is create jealousy in OM. He's the one who will make her choose, which will just push him farther away. As far as for R talks I had a list of what I needed her to do to feel comfortable, but now I'm going about it more relaxed. It's seeming to work better and I still remember what on the list was most important to me.

I found this site from a link from our diocese's Retrovaille page so I'm familiar with it, but only enough to know generally what it is. I am far from ready to go to a weekend. I'll have to check the listings again, but as a minimum she must not be dating or living with OM before attending a Retrouvaille. I'll go so far as to ask mutual friends if she can crash on the couch to possibly speed up the process, but past that I'm doing no favors either.