You left out the part after that big *but* Mach...
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but although I *know* that, I still feel like he'd be happier if I'd done something differently. I really need to keep working on that.
I know there is a lot to read in the thread, as well as the last one, so I'll just briefly summarize what I've found out about me...
If anything, I'm placing too much of the blame upon myself. With the best of intentions, I led H down a path I thought he would be grateful to be on. I know I would have been if someone had done that for me. I ended up just putting more pressure on him when I honestly thought I was helping. After that first domino--the rest of it fell into place. I've done the mirror work. I'm trying to work on the healing part.
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Really ?
And you have been reading up on MLC ?
Ummm...no. Again addressed earlier in the thread--I'd been in the newcomers forum the entire time I'd been here & only just realized that this is, in fact, what we are dealing with.
I won't bother with anymore of your quotes because, quite frankly, the snarkiness leaves me unable to read them over again.
I came to the forum humbled, confused, having made a mistake and asking for help. What I got from you was a condescending, childish reply that really does not help at all.
I've been reading the resources page that OP gave me all morning. I'm am realizing the magnitude of my mistake. How is slamming me helping at all? I've been lost in introspection all morning. perhaps you should dig deeper and figure out what about my post and sitch pushes all of your buttons & makes it necessary to respond with such an attitude.
Controlling enough for ya? I have real issues here. None of which include going out of my way to hurt a total stranger.
I'm going back to the resources list. There is real info there.
And thank you for that, OP. I do appreciate it.
Last edited by shelbel; 05/12/1003:46 PM.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.