You're setting the stage for failure with a timeline. I really hope read and learn a lot more about what your dealing with.
I'm all for boundaries, IF you are in a place to enforce them NO MATTER WHAT. If you're really ready for you're relationship to end when they are crossed. What you've written below tells me you're not.
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So honestly...my head says "run", my heart can't say much of anything because it's just shattered. Saying "I think this is over" is just a way of protecting myself.
If I really thought this was over I'd file tomorrow & not bother with links & threads & books & forums.
I'm supposed to be acting "as if", so I'm acting as if I'm smart enough to throw in the towel. Truth is, I'm heartbroken, terrified, and very, very confused.
Hows that for a confession? (trying to lol, but it's not working)
This is where your focus needs to be placed.
Originally Posted By: shelbel
By the way...I can hear all those bells going off in your heads right now. lol Yeah, I know I have issues. I've never denied that. In my other thread I addressed some things I'd done that contributed to H's current state. Or at least to the sitch that led him to the starting point.
